It’s important to make a plan and put it into action because every step you take will put you that much closer to achieving your heart’s desire. That said, however, you may need to adjust your initial plan, just as I did when I thought I could become a gymnast without first building muscle and stamina. You may be so excited to have discovered what you want and feel you must get there immediately. You need to be realistic. Either overestimating or underestimating your ability can be detrimental to achieving your goal. If you overestimate your ability, you may find that you can’t live up to your plan. If you underestimate your ability, you may not see the results that keep you moving forward.
As you begin to take action on your own plan, you will be experiencing many physical, mental, and emotional changes. Do you feel more focused mentally and more at peace emotionally? Are you losing weight and feeling better? You need to remain mindful and attentive to those changes because they will let you know whether you need to make adjustments to your plan. What is working for you? What is not? What can you do to put more emphasis on the positive and eliminate the negative as you go along?
As I’ve already mentioned, if you are feeling unhappy about any aspect of your life, it’s because you’ve given yourself a reason to feel that way. Only you can remove that reason. When you have a need for something that is lacking in your life, you are out of balance and you feel anxious because you know that you are missing something. When that happens, I suggest that you reevaluate your thoughts and feelings by going back through the various exercises in this book to help you discover the source of the imbalance.
What have you visualized for yourself? Are you acting in a way that reflects your beliefs and values? Revisit the screen of your mind and consider whether you’re doing the things that will get you where you want to go. If something in your life isn’t working, you need to (mentally) retrace your steps to discover where you lost your way, exactly as you would if you lost some physical possessions such as your car keys. If you lost your car keys, what would you do? You’d retrace your steps until you came to the place where you left them.
Here is an exercise that will quickly help you figure out where you stepped off the path and reconnect your behaviors with your goals.
MATCHING YOUR NEW BELIEFS WITH YOUR BEHAVIORS
Sometimes you may drift from your plan because there is a conflict between your behaviors and your new beliefs — in other words, between your body and your mind. When that happens, you need to reconnect the two so that you can be true to yourself and your commitment to achieving anything that you desire. This exercise will help you get back on track.
Write down your behaviors and match them with your new beliefs about yourself that you have created through meditation, visualization, and affirmation. Are they congruent or in conflict with one another?
I eat a Hershey bar just before getting on the treadmill, and my new belief is to lose weight.
My behavior is ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
My new belief is ________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
Does my behavior match my belief? ______________________________________________________________________________
If you feel burned-out on your nutrition or exercise plan, you may simply be tired. Don’t beat yourself up about it; just take a week off to relax.
If your strategy as a whole isn’t working, the plan you came up with initially may not be appropriate for achieving your heart’s desire. But there are other possibilities as well. Maybe you simply doubt your ability to perform the tasks you have set for yourself, or you think it’s just too much work. If that’s the case, remember that focusing on the outcome, not the process is what will get you through.